Insecurity in the dictionary is defined as

"Subject to doubt"
"Not confident or certain"
"Not firmly or reliably placed or fastened"

INSECURITY means to‘question one's worth, position or conviction." It means to QUESTION!  Insecurity will cause you to question your spouse, question your boss, question your teacher, and question God.

Insecurity aborts God’s agenda again and again in your life and our lives collectively because it makes you question.

It started in the Garden of Eden. Let me show you how.

Genesis 3:1-5 (NKJV)

1 “Has God indeed said, ‘You shall not eat of every tree of the garden’?” 
5 For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”

The clear inference was that Adam and Eve were not yet good enough, that they lacked something.

He got them to question their position as King and Queen of the Earth and to feel like they were not complete. 

Eg; Cain and Abel

The Answer Is A Revelation Of His Fatherhood And Our Sonship.

My security lies in the fact that God is my Father and I’m actually his child.  I’ve been born by his incorruptible seed. I am not like the son of God, I am a son of God.  

But, if we don’t have that revelation that GOD is actually our Father then we operate from out of an orphan spirit. 

And orphan spirit is one that does not know to whom they belong and the fruit of an orphan spirit is insecurity.

Insecurity affects us internally: our faith, our boldness, our confidence in embracing our future, and embracing each other, and it’s determined by our degree of feeling secure as Fathers son or daughter. 

Insecure people are suspicious people that have to control others

John 11:35 JESUS WEPT

These 2 words happen in the context of a real life tragedy. Not only is it a tragedy, but it’s created confusion, it’s made Mary and Martha unsure of their relationship with Jesus. 

JOHN 11:11 Now a man named Lazarus was sick. He was from Bethany, the village of Mary and her sister Martha. 2 (This Mary, whose brother Lazarus now lay sick, was the same one who poured perfume later on the Lord and wiped his feet with her hair.)3 So the sisters sent word to Jesus, “Lord, the one you love is sick.” 

Have you ever tried to hint to God about things.

4 When he heard this, Jesus said, “This sickness will not end in death. No, it is for God’s glory so that God’s Son may be glorified through it.” 5 Now Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus. 6 So when he heard that Lazarus was sick, he stayed where he was two more days,

(Listen to the contradiction. He heard Lazarus was sick and then stayed another 2 days. Why????)  

17 On his arrival, Jesus found that Lazarus had already been in the tomb for four days.  20 When Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went out to meet him, but Mary stayed at home.  

(NOTE:  Martha went to church in her disappointment, Mary stayed home. Important to encourage the Mary’s to get out and come back)

21 “Lord,” Martha said to Jesus, “if you had been here, my brother would not have died. 22 But I know that even now God will give you whatever you ask.”  23 Jesus said to her, “Your brother will rise again.” 24 Martha answered, “I know he will rise again in the resurrection at the last day.”25 Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me will live, even though they die; 26 and whoever lives by believing in me will never die. Do you believe this?”  27 “Yes, Lord,” she replied, “I believe that you are the Messiah, the Son of God,who is to come into the world.” 

Martha is only the second person in the gospels to say this.  Peter was the other.  Martha has what Jesus was after.  A shift from relationship to revelation-ship.

32 When Mary reached the place where Jesus was and saw him, she fell at his feet and said, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.”

Notice she blames Jesus here.  How often do we do that.

33 When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled. 34 “Where have you laid him?” he asked.  “Come and see, Lord,” they replied.35 Jesus wept. 36 Then the Jews said, “See how he loved him!” 37

Jesus Raises Lazarus From the Dead

40 Then Jesus said, “Did I not tell you that if you believe, you will see the glory of God?”41   “Father, I thank you that you have heard me. 42 I knew that you always hear me, but I said this for the benefit of the people standing here, that they may believe that you sent me.”43 When he had said this, Jesus called in a loud voice, “Lazarus, come out!” 44 The dead man came out, 

The obvious question when you read this story is 


Why put them through all of that grief.  Why would he allow people he loved to suffer for 4 days when he was only 1 day away.  He could have made it, but he didn’t.  

1. JESUS already had relationship with them like he has with you, but he wants more than relationship he wants revelationship.  

Talk about the difference between relationship and revelation-ship. Delay and a lack of contact in relationships cause a strain because they bring out the insecurity in all of us. Delays expose bring to the surface the worst thoughts and amplify our insecurity. Jesus wanted to take the uncertainty out of them once and for all.  

Relationship needs PROXIMITY to survive.  Revelation-ship creates A CERTAINTY that survives everything.

2. Jesus really felt the pain of his delay.

Jesus really felt their grief and their pain and has to hold himself back from intervening. He weeps with them. He can see that the wait for the big reveal has injured them and hurt them and it hurts him. He knows that he was only a day away when they called for help and they can’t work out why he didn’t come.  It called into Q their relationship.  Does he really love us. I thought we had a relationship with Jesus. Why didn’t he make us a priority? All these questions going through their head.  

  • Even though Jesus feels their pain, he is committed to taking them from relationship to revelationship. 

APPLICATION: I believe there are people in confusion, there are people who can’t work it out.  What you have prayed for isn’t happening. Why Lord? We know God CAN do it, he wants us to go far beyond that. 


  • Martha is one of only 2 people who has a revelation of Jesus as the messiah recorded in the gospels clearly. 
  • It was Mary in John 12 who poured out that expensive perfume all over Jesus feet.  Once she had certainty, she gave everything.  
  • Mary never stays home again.  She is at the cross.

You’ll never be prepared to give it all until you have moved from relationship to revelation-ship.    So get ready for a resurrection that reveals Jesus as not someone you have a relationship with, but someone who is worth giving everything for.  


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